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REINVENTING MASCULINITY

DISRUPTING STEREOTYPES × strengthening emotional muscle

facilitating workshops for boys and men australia wide

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We are on the hunt for a National Program Manager to join our team at Tomorrow Man & Tomorrow Woman HQ in Melbourne.⁠ .⁠ You’ll be leading the kick-ass legends in our facilitation team, managing and strengthening the relationships with our funders and partners and holding the TM/TW programs, from scheduling & planning to customer data & CRM management, fund management & invoicing, wellbeing support, training needs, to program and content review with the team. Sound like you?⁠ .⁠ Check out link in our bio for the details, ⁠ 👉@tomorrowman_au⁠ .⁠ Tag your mates if you think they’d make a good fit.⁠
One of the best things about virtual delivery is that blokes can call in from the comfort of their own home. They can perch themselves in their favourite chair. Lay on their bed. They can even call in from the loo (although this is not advised).⁠ ·⁠ This comfort provides them with an added sense of security and also gives the rest of us just a small insight into their world.⁠ ·⁠ When we designed the virtual Lock In workshops we wanted to bring the worlds of these blokes into the virtual space. It's so incredibly powerful when a dad is talking about his kids, and then can bring them onto the screen. Or when a young lad is talking about his basketball trophies that he's able to grab it and show us. Or even when a bloke mentions their late mother or father, they can provide a little insight by holding up a photo.⁠ ·⁠ Moments like these have created levels of connection in our workshops we never would have thought possible 6 months ago. We've loved being able to bring a level of connection and support to blokes across Australia this year. - Andy 💕⁠ ·⁠ Thanks to @gotcha4life for helping to make these workshops a reality.
One of the most shattering experiences when it comes to sports, are injuries.⁠⠀ Especially when you’ve put in all that hard work over preseason. Strength & conditioning training, fitness, maintaining healthy habits and plenty of cardio.⁠⠀ ·⁠⠀ Recently a Year 12 from Toormina High School talked with gravity about a season-ending break. Soccer meant the world to him, and he was experiencing an epic start to the season. But now, with one break it was all over. The void hit him hard. Not getting to play the sport he loved was one thing, but spending less time with his teammates was even tougher.⁠⠀ ·⁠⠀ “I was distraught. I’d lost all my motivation with other parts of my life. My mum, dad and coach could tell that something wasn’t right with me. So finally I asked them for some support and went to see a councillor. I learnt better coping strategies and while I've had injuries since, I made sure to talk it out and focus on the things I have control of.” Pretty epic realisation from this young lad. - Ryder 👊⁠⠀ ·⁠⠀ Given that sports have been on the back burner this year, there are lots of people across the country who have missed the opportunity to play the sport they loved + to not see their teammates. A little extra support might be necessary. So, what’s been your worst sporting injury and what were some of your ways to get through it? 🤕
Rowdy and disruptive students can sometimes be unsettling. Those who don’t wear their uniform correctly, who sometimes don't even bother with a uniform, who dismantle 'boring' lessons, or switch off when they can't relate. We all know them. Maybe you were one.⁠ ·⁠ But these young men also have the courage and social awareness to call it how it is. They’re honest and smart. Maybe not academically smart, but socially smart. In workshops we get to see the other side of these lads.⁠ ·⁠ Recently in a workshop one young bloke told the group that 'if they’re struggling, that alcohol and drugs were not the answer. And if they needed support, he’d be there for them'. He had obviously learnt this lesson from somewhere.⁠ ·⁠ He shared a story about how violent his dad was. How ice and alcohol had ruined both his parents lives. He spoke about being put into foster care at a young age, and his face lit up as he told us about the new place he'd just moved into that he really liked.⁠ ·⁠ What’s cool about our workshops is that we allow space to hear the whole journey. Fleshing out the story behind his experience makes it real.⁠ "I saw drugs ruin the people around me. I saw them trying to medicate themselves to help their mental health and it didn't work. Drugs ruined my childhood. Don’t do drugs." A pretty powerful message from this young lad to his peers.⁠ · ⁠ Too often we try to teach a lesson without the context or story behind it. Our workshops provide a space for students to learn from life experiences in the collective wisdom and experiences of their friends and peers. - Josh 👊⁠ ·⁠ Want to encourage conversations + judgement free spaces like this in your school? We can help. Whether it's in school, in the workplace, community or sporting club. Face to face or virtually. Get in touch to book a workshop.
He was a little bigger in size and hung out with the 'popular crew’. He had a distinctive presence in the group, as he got a sure laugh each time he cracked a joke. He was distracting the boys around him so I gently asked if he could move into the middle of the room, which he did, begrudgingly. · After going through a variety of statistics currently affecting males, I asked if anyone felt a connection with any of them that they would like to share. This young lad was the first to jump up. · Immediately his lip began to shake and his eyes filled with tears. "I can relate to the suicide stat. I've thought about killing myself.” The room was absolutely silent. "I have been called fat, obese, and overweight for years and it hurts…” he trailed off. · I asked if he had ever shared this with anyone. “Only one friend,” he said. We went on talk about what he wants for his future. "I know I want to be here, and I am going to lose weight,” he said. "I know it will be hard, but I know I can do it.” · Some of the other boys in the room looked shocked, particularly the lads in his group of mates. Then one of his mates raised his hand to talk. "I feel bad. I'm one of those guys that has said those things to you.” I asked his mate if he had anything to say today. "I want to say that I'm sorry. And can I give you a hug?” · What happened next blew my mind. All 30 students lined up to show this guy some love. They all let him know how courageous, brave and strong he is. He walked out of the workshop smiling from ear to ear. Having the opportunity to talk with gravity helped this young man to be really honest with his peers and pave the way for a stronger connection between the lads. · The pastoral team will follow him up, and the student will speak with his parents about what he shared and how he’d been feeling. - Matt 👊 · If you need immediate support or are worried about someone else call Lifeline on 13 11 14, beyondblue on 1300 224 636, or MensLine on 1300 78 99 78. If life is in danger call 000. · Do your mates, colleagues, peers or team mates need to be shown some love? Wherever blokes gather, we can be there. Face to face or virtually. Get in touch to book a workshop.